How to Effectively Communicate Your Needs
It can be hard to ask for what you want while also being polite and respectful. The way we communicate matters. Learning assertive communication skills can help you clearly express what you need while also respecting others.
Use the three steps below to think through what you want to say and how you want to say it.
Step 1: Clearly identify what you want
What do you want? Focus on your specific need so you can communicate more effectively.
Step 2: Weigh the importance of your ask against the importance of your relationship
What are you willing to compromise? Consider both the importance of what you want and of the relationship. Be open to negotiating a compromise that would meet everyone’s needs.
Step 3: Practice your tone and delivery
How do you want to say it? Ensure your tone is calm, and your request is clear and direct. Practice good eye contact and assertive body language, and rehearse what you want to say out loud.